I’ve learned 1 quick way to get your focus back on track.
As I’m always reading books on personal growth and creativity, I came across Jack Canfield’s book The Success Principles”.
I have not even finished the book yet, but already I have some favorite principles from the book I can use in my life.
Success principles like
My natural mindset is to do everything myself. But that’s not possible and we lose out of great learning and growth if we don’t ask for help. If we get a no, we are no worse off than before we asked.
- Release the breaks.
Stop re-creating the same experience over and over. (Hand raised here!) The whole “see, I told you so”, is a reinforcement of being right, instead of being brave. It just creates resistance to change. Time to release the breaks.
- Decide what you want
Being multi-passionate, what I want keeps changing. But the times in my life I have made a decision, I have always achieved it. So I know this is big.
And then this one…
1 quick way to get your focus back on track
This is a brilliant exercise.
This is principle 19: Use feedback to your advantage.
How to get your focus back on track is this:
Ask this question:
On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate the quality of our relationship (product/service) during the last 2 weeks (month/season/month)?
On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate me as a wife/friend/mom/teacher/blogger/newsletter writer?
And then comes the follow-up question:
What would it take to make it a 10?
This is such a good and instant way to get your focus on track because it takes away the negative mental clutter of making up stories about other people and who’s fault it is.
I am using this principle at the moment with my work.
I have been having a hard time at work for a while. And so I asked myself what it would take to make me happier at work.
My answer, to my surprise, was a better relationship with my boss.
We have a strained relationship.
And the follow-up question is, what will it take to make our relationship better?
This has put my focus on what I can do, instead of the things I think my boss isn’t doing.
A much better, responsible and realistic way to create improvement.
If you struggle with focus
These 2 questions are a great way to practice your focus muscle. And you can use them with everything.
Your relationships, your job, your creative work, your product or service. Anything.
I’m going to use them in my journal, to get my focus back to what’s important to me, and less on the negative mental chatter that goes on loop.
I hope you’ve been inspired by Canfield’s principle and if you want to learn more, I also recommend getting the book.