How to identify the beliefs you need to change to transform
It’s a good idea to identify the beliefs you need to change to transform into what you wish to be before you make plans for your future
You may have limiting beliefs, and if you wish to re-write your story, you’ll have to re-write those limiting beliefs.
Even a simple negative belief can have a big impact on your life, and change becomes really difficult if you continue to work from that frame of mind.
See if you use metaphors like “life is a game” or “life is a battlefield” or “life is unfair”. Your life experience will be different depending on which metaphor you use.
I have said to my kids many times that life is unfair when they have complained about something. That is exactly how limiting beliefs are created. Double ups!
Try finishing the sentence:
How to identify the beliefs you need to change
Awareness is key.
Have a look at the sentences below, and finish them.
Get a pen and paper out and ask to each sentence what they are, should be, or mean.
The trick is to answer quickly and write down the first thing that comes to mind. This is important for it to work.
See if you surprise yourself with your answer.
My boss is:
Experiencing challenges means:
Other people are:
A career should be:
Being successful means:
The future is:
Being a parent means:
Being a business owner means:
Being a man means:
Being a woman means:
Did you have any AHA experiences?
You can do this same exercise in the following areas if life:
There’s quite a bit of work involved in identifying and changing your beliefs. And most of us don’t do this work. Simply because we don’t know it’s good to do.
Let’s say you wish to start a business, and your core belief is, that good business owners are men, and you’re a woman.
Or that being successful means having being aggressive and working 90 hours a week.
Do you see how those beliefs make starting a business an uphill struggle from the get-go?
Now that you have identified some of your beliefs, I want you to pick 5 core beliefs.
My top 5 core beliefs are:
For each of your 5 core beliefs ask yourself:
Is it true? How do I know?
Where does this belief come from?
How do I feel when I think about this belief?
Who would I be without this belief?
What do I WANT to believe?
This is such excellent and useful work to do.
It’s taking a look at our default programming and asking
“Is this even what I want to believe anymore and is it serving me and the kind of person I want to be?”
This work is just so important to do to be able to move forward. A bit uncomfortable, yes, but you got this.
I wish for you to get everything you want, and then some. :-)
There are enough funky obstacles on our paths, limiting beliefs don’t have to be one of them.
You are doing awesome!