Why you need to know where you are, to know where you're going
You need to know where you are now, to know where you’re going. It’s a simple concept, really.
But our brains play funny tricks on us all the time. We can look at something or someone and think “I can do that if I get those jeans, or that couch”, believing our lives will be like that in the picture.
This illusion, or fantasy is why a lot of us don’t live the life we dream of. Our brains makes the jump to how perfect life would be if…..
….I had that home.
…..I was that size in jeans.
….I had that many people follow me on Twitter.
And so we focus on what life could be like.
A lot of motivational speakers teach us this, and I agree that it’s important to have a clear vision in your minds eye (and on a vision board) of the life you dream of. But I believe it’s equally important to be real about where you are now. Your starting point.
For most of us there’s is a gap between how we see ourselves and how other people see us. I can’t help but think about those hopeful people who show up at X-Factor, believing they can win the show, when they can’t sing to save their lives
Having a realistic idea about what your life is like now is the starting point for creating change.
How to figure out where you are now
Here are some questions you can ask yourself to get a sense of the reality of what your life looks like right now:
how many hours free time do you have per week?
Break down how you prioritize your time in a day
Do you have any obligations at the moment that takes up more of your free time than usual?
What conversations would you have to have with your family if you decide to create a change in your life?
Can you do what you want to do alone or do you need help?
Do you have the knowledge you need?
Do you have the skills you need?
What do you have to learn to be successful?
What shift in your mindset has to happen (if any)?
These kinds of questions are helpful because there is no point in taking on a huge project, if you have promised to help your best friend pack, move house and decorate the new house in the next two weeks. You might want to wait a little then.
It may sound obvious but we still have a tendency to overbook ourselves around the big holidays and wonder why we become exhausted.
Once you have made a realistic assessment of what your life looks like and figured out where you are now, the next step is to figure out where you want to go. What your goal is.
And then the exciting final step: figuring out a way to close the gap between the two.
Closing the gap
How you close the gap between where you are now and where you want ot be is planning the steps to take to reach your goal.
It’s the process of creating change, the process of creating, and often a creative process. Closing the gap is the journey of a thousand miles which starts with one step.
It’s work, it’s failure, it’s mistakes, it’s getting off track and fighting to get back on track.
Closing the gap is the journey, the gold, the learning, and it takes planning and commitment.
And if you decide to enjoy that journey, it’ll be the best part.
To sum it up:
Where you are now: clarity of you and your life
Where you want to go: a goal that you are committed to
Closing the gap: planning the steps to take in the process of change
If you want to learn more about how I can help you close the gap between where you are now and where you want to be, check this out
To closing gaps :-)