The 4 Reasons You Make Life Changes
Most of us probably have dreams about our lives, or a wish for some things to be different. Wishes for parts of our lives to be different. Maybe it’s more money (not many wish for less money, funny that!), a different relationship status, or dreams of living in a different home.
But for wishes and dreams to become real changes, we have to have a reason strong enough to make us act.
Life changes all the time, whether we want to or not. And because you are creating your life as you go along, you might as well create it intentionally.
A lot of us fear change, but to fear change is to fear the natural flow of life. Sometimes you can use so much energy trying to keep things as they are, that you miss out on beautiful things that can come with growth and change.
I love growth and change. I get excited about the possibility of learning something new about myself. I have to be in a job that has possibilities. I have to be able to improve and grow, earn more and progress. This drives me. I’m always studying. Growing is great but change is different. Change is when you leave one job and have to get another. It’s when you quit smoking or when you make a radical decision that takes you on a different life path.
Understanding the 4 common reasons why people change
If you’re looking to change something in your life, it may be helpful to have a look at these 4 common reasons for the change. Understanding your own reason for creating a life change may help you not getting swept up in your emotions but make you able to look at your situation from a healthy, calm distance.
Reactive: you respond to a life change, you have to change.
Life has pushed you into a situation and you have to deal with it. A recent event in your life has made you rethink what you believe in, and who you thought you were. You could have been given a health scare and this means you have to change your lifestyle.
Proactive: you want to change, you are wanting a change.
Something is happening in your future and you want to be able to handle it, and you want to be ready for it. Maybe you have a big expense coming up and you need to make more dough so you go for a promotion or a different job altogether. Maybe you decide to move to the city or town you have dreamed of living in for years. You want the change.
Away: you want to escape a negative situation, the consequence of not changing is high.
You’ve had enough of a situation, you’re at breaking point.
You could be in a work situation where the culture is so bad you find you have to compromise your values to get through the day and in the end this makes you quit.
Toward: you seek a higher meaning, your purpose, fulfilment, passion, and self-determination.
You are deeply unsatisfied with your life, you know there’s more, even if you don’t know what that more is.
You have a burning desire to do something different and you want help to figure out how to do it. You might have come to a crossroad in your life and scary as it is you’re going to start that business or go back to school or whatever the case may be.
Know your reason for change
It’s super helpful to know where you’re at. I find we often think we’re broken when we’re heading for a change. But I hope you’ll see change as a great time in your life. Scary, uncertain, frustrating and uncomfortable. Until it’s no longer all those things. All of a sudden you have grown. And changed. All possibilities are open for you. If you can just stand being in that scary spot long enough. Oh, it’s hard as heck, I’m not sugar coating anything.
I personally find these 4 different reasons for making substantial life changes useful to know. It’s like, once you know what’s going on it’s easier to deal with. HOW to make the change is a different matter and totally depends on the change you’re making.
Change can be practical or it can be internal.
Examples of practical change could be changing your room around, or going for a whole new look in your home. Maybe you want a complete change in your clothing style and how you look. Practical change can also be changing home, moving house. Anything practical.
The internal change could be changing the way you speak to yourself. Catching your negative, fixed mindset persona, and changing the words and tone of voice in which you speak to yourself.
Internal change can also be finding new values to guide your life. Whatever kind of change you’re looking for, it’s good to know why. The reason behind your change.
This gives you clarity and clarity leads to confidence. You may recognize more than one of the reasons for your own change. Life is not linear so there’ll always be changes happening. Your clarity about your change will serve you great. So kudos to you.
Now that you’ve found the reason for your change, you’ll need to figure out what you want and how to get it.
If you need help with that, check out my coaching page.
On this blog archive page, you’ll find plenty of posts that’ll help you move on from here.
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P.P.S Credit for this post goes to Nathalie and Joels Life Coaching training