She is a classic Multi-passionate woman

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It's too funny!

Last week an old colleague from work, came to my house for coffee.

She left last summer to go back to Uni to add a Master Degree to her Bachelor.

My friend's wonderful, funny and really smart woman, who is good at so many things. I especially love her sense of humor, which is so intelligent and well....funny :-D

We were laughing at how we do so many of the same things.

For instance, we both check the real estate market pages for relaxation, even if we have no intention of buying a house. And the reasons we're not keen of buying a house, are the same:

We'd feel trapped, we'd feel like the upkeep of the house would take us away from our "real" interests - whatever they are at the moment.

She is a classic multi-passionate woman

Anyway, to me, she's classic multi-passionate woman.

She'd never heard of "multi-passionism" until  I informed her.  She's pretty textbook. But no one knows what being multi-passionate is here in Denmark.

What I mean by classic multi-passionate is, that she (like me and many others) feel the need to change direction every 2-3 years or so.

The symptoms are the same:

Things aren't fun anymore, Sunday becomes an "oh no, it's Monday tomorrow" - day. You start to look for new interests (often completely subconsciously), and you feel a physical shift happen in your body. Furniture gets moved around, maybe the couch gets replaced. Change is needed.

These are just some of the "itchy feet" symptoms. Maybe you can recognize some of them?  :-)

A classic multi-passionate challenge: the CV

She's knows how to do many things, because she throws herself into learning things like playing the piano, playing the guitar, painting, knitting and more.

But she was saying to me:

"I'd love to be really good at one thing"

This has to do with when she finishes her studies, and she has to get a job.

She's having the classic multi-passionate dilemma:

The long CV. 

She feels, that when she's finished her studies and she has to get a job, it's a problem that she doesn't have one thing, she can say she's really good at.

Because she's done so many things and it's making her feel less than.

Ok, so here's the thing.

We talked about society, the school system, and we've had many chats over time about how change happens when we change our attitude and perceptions of things.

There are times when it's good to have specialized knowledge, such as in the medical field, in law, and others, but in my experience, in most professions, it is not healthy to stay in the same job too many years.

It is healthy for personal and professional growth to change job and/or profession.

Hard, yes. But healthy.


How to tackle the CV challenge

Advice 1:

My advice to my multi-passionate friend, and you, if you have the same challenge, is to practice looking at your large experience as a strength.

We (us multi-passionates/creatives) tend to be more adaptable to change than others. We rarely get stuck in a job, where we think we know everything. We can never know everything. Learning never stops and we soak up new knowledge like a sponge.

And we are also usually better at working with different types of people. Simply because we've done it.

Look at all your strengths, your knowledge, social skills, emotional skills.

 Advice 2:

When people ask what you do, or what you're good at (whichever way they frame it), instead of saying "I'm a Nursey Teacher" (or whatever it might be), try saying  "I'm really good at getting kids and colleagues inspired to learn by playing music and using humor"  - if that's what you're good at.

Then say the title of what you are.

Simon Sinek calls it, telling people your why. And I think it's a great way to help change the emphasis we put on a title.

Let's be part of the change

We are so much more than a title. But it's the first thing we say to people when they ask about us.

And I think it's the same for that CV.

There's no reason why you can't put on your CV the wonderful things you're good at. As well as the reasons why you have changed direction many times and what you feel you've learned from that.

'Cause when you actually get to do the job, then hiding behind a title is pretty hard, if you're not capable of working with other people and aren't willing to learn new things.

Let's be part of the change.

I believe the communication we use is more important than a title we may or may not have.