3 Questions To Help You Rewrite Your Life’s Story
You can rewrite and control your story, your life’s story. Ans we love a good story. Either being told one or telling one. You remember a good story. Stories make us feel something. You are made of stories and we are wired for story. We get moved by a story, by somebody's story. And we all have stories.
What’s also interesting about a personal story is that two people can have experienced the same thing but come away with two completely different stories about what happened. This is typical in families. My sister and I have very different stories about our some experiences in our childhood. I’m sure you’ve had similar experiences.
Often quick to judge people and presume we know how they are, but the reality is we don’t. Everybody has a story. I often find, that when I see people who are outspoken or successful, or seem to have their sh.. together or are knowledgeable, I presume things are easy for them. But maybe they have worked and fought really hard to be outspoken, successful, together and knowledgeable.
I'm in college at the moment, and I am one of those outspoken students. I know for a fact, that some of my fellow students think it all comes easily to me. But they don't know that I never said a word in Primary and Secondary school. They don't know my story and how much I've worked to be the person I am today. And the same goes for them. I don't know why they react the way they do. A little, but not much, so it's a question of being true to who we are and respectful of others.
You can control your story
This is where controlling your story comes in. And why it's important to take that control. Thing is, we live in habits. We do the same things every day. And we think the same thoughts today as we did yesterday.
Studies show that we have around 60000 thoughts per day, and 95% of them are the same thoughts as the ones we had the day before.
How crazy is that?
Only 5% left for new, creative thoughts.
Unless you do something about it.
So for example, if you think you have to be a certain way, because your parents were that way, then you're not in control of your story. I tend to ruminate and go over a situation over and over again. I carry situations with me for years. This makes me a slave to a story that is wasting my energy. I don’t want that to happen.
But here's what you can do:
These 3 questions will help you control your story
For you to interrupt the 95% of thoughts you have daily, which is the same for everybody so don’t feel bad, you have to do something intentionally. I highly recommend writing the answers to the fowllowing 3 questions down somewhere. Very few people do this - maybe 95% of people (?) - so if you do you’ll be able to control your story.
What story are you telling yourself, about yourself?
What story do you want to tell?
Why do you want to tell that story?
I always work better with a playful attitude, so if you can see this as a little fun detective work, you’re more likely to come up with an answer. Get your Sherlock on and investigate your story. What sort of things are you constantly telling yourself? Most of the time we don’t notice so just noticing your train of thought is super powerful.
Know this: to be in control of your story (your life) you must:
Know that you have a choice
Decide what you want your story to be
Do the work it takes to break the habit you're in now.
It's thrilling, fun, detective work that only you can do. You can totally do this. What do you want your story to be? What would make you proud of yourself? Sometimes we just need to be woken up from our daily-ness and realize we have a choice to do something different. It’s not like you have to reinvent yourself, it’s just being aware of what stories you’re telling yourself and checking in whether they are true. And then creating a new story that makes you feel good.
You deserve a great story