How to find time to be creative (without stress)
I don't know what your life looks like, but I can share with you how I find time to create in my life, being a working mom with 3 kids, aged 8 to 12.
Life gets pretty busy. And although we all have the same 24 hours, how much times we have for ourselves is not the same.
Maybe you've heard people compare your 24 hours to those of Oprah and Beyoncé, but let's be real, Oprah doesn't have children, and Beyoncé has a lot of help.
For us normal people, trying to find time to create and work on our passions, often has to fit into a life with a job and children. And no help.
We can do everything we want today as women, and we do. Trouble is when we expect to do everything perfectly, and at the same time. Job, home, looks, clothing, kids, relationship, sex, body, friends, holidays, cars, family, it all has to be better than ordinary. Because who wants to be ordinary in today's social media world?
But something has to give.
And it's often our unrealistic expectations. If you follow my blog, you'll hear me say this again, and again. As a recovering perfectionist I am only too familiar with unrealistic expectations and being too afraid to follow my dreams because of fear of what other people will say.
The very things that give us joy, a sense of freedom, individuality, and balance in our lives is almost always the first thing we let go of when life is busy.
Well, my creative friend, I'm here to invite you to change that.
But I'm not going to tell you how, or give you good tips.
I'm simply going to share with you, how I find time to be creative.
How I find time to be creative:
I make time!
Any time I can grab. In the morning after I send the kids to school and I have a late start at work, if I finish early from work, in the evening, on weekends. I don't watch much telly, I write instead. Or do other creative work.
If you're a mom, you know this; you're on call 24/7. Spending a little time on myself, creating, is what keeps me (half) sane! :) Some people might do pampering, this is my kind of pampering.
In the beginning, going back 8 uears maybe, it was not something I had to do, it's something I wanted to do. But today, because I have been creating almost daily for so long, it is something I have to do. I get cranky if I don’t get to create. It’s so “bad” that I’m becoming “agent indoors”. I have to be dragged outsode the house and I can’t wait ot get home so I can get behind my computer again.
Creating helps create a balance in my life. It creates balance in my life in the sense that expressing myself creatively sorts through my thoughts and feelings. I LOVE this quote by Joan Didion because it sums up so beautifully how many of us creatives feel once we have gotten the creative bug under our skin.
Doing creative work is definitely a choice I make. I make time. Because I'm a mom of 3 kids and the one who knows where everything is in the house, (don’t most moms?) I make myself accessible to my family, they can come to me for anything. Sometimes I send them away, but most of the time, I stop what I'm doing and listen.
How you can make time to be creative - without stressing
Forget about high expectations of sitting down every day at the same time and shutting yourself off from the world. Take small steps and enjoy the process of your stolen moments. Maybe you can spend 15 minutes while you kids do their homework (unless you have to help them). Take half an hour in the morning while you drink your lovely cup of morning coffee to write in a journal or some other create work. Small steps will get you a long way.
The last thing you need is more guilt or stress about a goal not being met. 5 minutes here and there, maybe half an hour, a few hours sometimes. It all adds up. Once you steal moments to yourself here and there and experiene the wonderful feeling of getting lost in flow, you’ll want to recreate that feeling as often as possible.
Enjoy your stolen moments. They all add up :-D