Trust Your Process - in life and creativity
I’m going to try and convince you - and myself - to trust your process. In life and in creativity. Because without an element of trust in yourself, you’re going to be a constant state of lack and frustrattion.
The creative process has a life of it’s own. Some parts of that process are predictable, like hitting creative chaos, but there’s no guarantee that the day you expect to do great work is the day your muse will visit.
You life is the biggest process. It's one long process of learning, falling, loving, growing, moving, being, trying.
We live in a world of instant. TV, internet, social media. It's instant. We want instant, we expect instant results. We need that dopamine fix we get from "likes".
So trusting a process is the rebels choice. It's the difficult choice because process takes time.
The opposite of trusting the process, is controlling the process.
Personally, I love control. I spend a lot of time trying to control various processes. Control and knowing in advance what's going to happen is important to me. But it's not so good and I am practicing trust. When I manage to be like "ok, it's just part of the deal", I feel more at peace. Trusting gives me a feeling of "it's going to be ok".
Control is used when we don't trust the process. Which is bad news for me, and you if you feel the same way.
4 reasons why you want to trust your process
First of all, that's what life is; a process. You gotta have a little faith in your life. I don't mean religion, but faith that you are here, and here for a reason, and that that's enough.
Second, so many people worry about finding meaning and purpose in life, and those things are not an end station. You don't arrive at a purpose-stop one day, and everything is wonderful after that. Trust that you're working toward all you're looking for.
You just can't be miserable and frustrated over things not being how you want them. Learn, adapt, work, try to trust.
Trusting your own process - in life and creativity - will also make it easier to focus on your own lane and not compare yourself to others all the time.
Examples of trusting your creative process:
You want to start a business, and it's not going to plan. You can't seem to figure out how to get customers, and the people you do get to sign up to your email list, don't buy anything.
Instead of getting all down on yourself, and quit because apparently, you can't run a business. Knowing failing is part of the process of starting and running a business, makes it easier to trust, that you learn some valuable lessons in your process of being a business owner.
Example of trusting your life’s process:
I'm worried about my 14-year-old teenage son's behaviour..............
We have to trust HIS process of developing from child to adult. And trust the work my husband and I have done is going to help him along. (So hard to do)
The difference between trusting a person and trusting a process
Trusting a person is something that takes time. A person has to earn your trust. That's a one-to-one and two-way relationship. You both have equal say in how your relationship develops.
Trusting a process is more about surrendering to change, which is why trusting is hard for a control freak like me who like to control the outcome.
The Children's Nursery I work in, is having an extension build, and we're adding 24 children and 6 staff to our place. That whole change is going to be a process. And it's a process that is going to be exciting, difficult, and long. I will gain 6 new colleagues I have to get to know and trust, but the overall situation is a process.
Choose how to feel in your process
You can choose how you want to feel going through your life’s process and your creative process. It's a decision you must make.
You can choose a sense of lightness, joy, silliness, calm, wonder and openness.
Or you can choose judgment, impatience, pressure and result-driven hurry.
Truth is, you have the power to decide whether you want a joy-filled life process, where you trust yourself and the Universe, or you can decide to only focus on slaving away for some results. Remember not making a decision is also a choice. :-D
Life happens in every moment and it flies by. Omg, it goes so quickly. I’m not a believer on only positive feelings, we all have the full spectrum of feelings and we’re allowed to feel them all. However, I do believe we feel better if we try and feel positive more than we feel negative. And feeling more light and positive feelings is something you can practice. If you don’t make an intentional choice, your thoughts and feelings will go to default mode and that usually sums up to you being not good enough.
Choose to trust your process with openeness, wonder, positivity. In life and creativity.